I’ve just recently received email from Vin in my spam folder expressing how to avoid certain fashion nightmare. This is more to read and remember. This could help you guys over there. Enjoy reading…
“I am NOT the most fashion savvy guy in the world.
I usually let my girlfriend pick out
clothes for me – not for MY benefit..
… but so that she doesn’t feel
embarrassed when we go out in
If it were up to me, I’d wear sweats and
a t-shirt all day, with some old worn
out sneakers. I mean, I think fashion is
I can definitely appreciate the artistic
aspect of fashion design and style. When
you look at a really well dressed woman,
her outfit is like a work of art, and I
But when a guy is “too stylish” I kinda
lose respect for him.
Don’t get me wrong, a man should present
himself like he means to be taken
seriously. A nice suit, good quality,
well-fitting clothes are a fundamental
part of masculine expression.
But some guys take it too far.
Case in point, the obsession with “peacocking”
in the pickup Community for the past
When I hear this term it makes me
YOU ARE NOT A PEACOCK.
If you’re not familiar with
“peacocking,” let me explain.
A while ago, there was an emergence of
routine-based “game,” relying heavily on
superficial techniques, status games, and
over-analysis of social interactions.
I never saw the value of any of this,
and have always gone in the opposite
The main reason for this is
that I saw how pretending to be someone
other than yourself, and saying jokes
and routines that other guys came up
with JUST FELT WRONG.
On top of that, the PRIMARY FOCUS of all
that strategizing and game-playing was
to covertly get approval from women,
while making them feel insecure so
they’d think you were cooler than them.
Think about the layers of bullshit in
that approach to dating. Not only are
you faking your personality because you
a) seek approval (as if women were an
authority on what makes a man a man)
b) hide the fact that you’re seeking
c) play games with women so that they
feel insecure and try to seek your
One of the main techniques of this
approach was to “peacock,” to dress up
in a really loud, ostentatious way so
that women would “notice” you and want
to talk to you.
Now there’s nothing wrong with wearing a
nice watch, or a necklace that has some
But don’t do it to
make women like you.
I’m sure a lot of you guys have seen the
advocates of this approach on TV shows,
straining to make sense out of this
I’ve personally encountered students of
other pickup schools, and felt sad
because these poor guys were not only
nervous, clumsy, misdirected…they
So I want to set the record straight
when it comes to fashion and meeting
There are only a handful of things you
need to pay attention to when it comes
to your appearance.
After you get this stuff handled, you
should put it out of your mind, and
not wait for women to notice you
before you TAKE ACTION.
Before I go on, I have to reveal a
I’ve tried peacocking myself. I did this
maybe a couple times when I heard that
other guys were doing it, just to see if
I felt ridiculous, and was totally
incongruent with my personality when I
But we all know that women pay attention
to fashion, and like a well-dressed man.
I noticed that some of my best pickups
occurred when I was in my workout
clothes, or I was wearing something
really basic – like jeans and a tanktop.
At the same time, I’d see muscled-up
guys wearing revealing spandex, or
super-tight shirts at the club, and
women definitely did not respond well to
This got me thinking…maybe it’s not
how much the clothes cost, or how flashy
Maybe there’s something else
Actually, there are two things going on,
and you must manage, or balance these
First and foremost, never seek approval
from women. If a woman can tell that you
are trying to impress her or make her
like you, you are toast.
So if you look like you got dressed with
the intention of getting women’s
attention, they’ll see you coming a mile
a way and put up their defenses.
You DON’T WANT to look like a
pick up artist.
It’s better to dress modestly, and not
put too much thought into it.
However, you don’t want to look sloppy.
You want to present yourself in the best
way you can.
This comes back to self-expression.
You already have a sense of what kind of
guy you are, what your “scene” is, what
you think is cool.
Don’t change that.
Instead, cultivate it, with these simple
Wear colors that appeal to your skin
tone and hair color. This isn’t rocket
science. Go to an upscale men’s clothing
store, and ask someone about this. Or
Next, make sure your clothes are clean,
and wrinkle free, and reasonably
up-to-date. A woman should not have to
worry about bringing you around her
Lastly, make sure your clothes fit well,
meaning, they ACCENTUATE YOUR
Wear shirts that narrow your waist, and
square your shoulders.
Wear pants that make your legs look long
Wear shoes that make your feet look big
Groom yourself – nose, neck, and ear
hairs. Get a decent haircut. Shave, or
don’t, but figure out what looks best
and take it all the way.
One other piece…
Accessories should hang off you loosely,
and have the look of a small decoration
that says, “yeah, I can fuck.”
Use your intuition with this one. I don’t want to
say too much because that’s a whole
If you’re wondering how you’re
expression, your style and behavior is
coming off to women, and you want to
maximize your potential with the
opposite sex, you owe it to yourself to
check out Vin’s The Attraction Code.”
Even this letter is lengthy, I gave my time and effort to read this.
Hope you too guys!